That old saying holds so much truth "When you play with fire you are going to get burned."
How many times does it take? How many times to do you have burn yourself before you realize that the fire isn't going to change, it's always going to burn.
Fire isn't capable of changing, it is what it is.
It's job is to burn things. It knows nothing else.
Same with people, they will never be anything else than what they are.
Lesson learned for GOOD this time.
It is what it is. They are who they are.